Meditation in Buddhism    


One young reader requested I address the meditation to reduce stress. I think it is important to address this issue at the beginning. Meditation is practiced in all religions, and more importantly is considered an integral part of Buddhist practice.

What is meditation ? and why do we need to do meditation?

What is meditation ? There are many definitions of meditation but to me simply put, meditation is concentration, focusing one thing at a time. Meditation is the opposite of distraction, forgetfulness.

Why do people practice meditation ?  People often practice meditation to reduce or manage stress.  Meditation was recognized as an excellent method in reducing stress.

Here are some statistics on harmful effects of stress that we need to reduce or eliminate in our daily life.

·        Forty-three percent of all adults suffer adverse health effects from stress.

·        Seventy-five percent to 90% of all doctor’s office visits are for stress-related ailments and complaints.

·        Stress can play a part in problems such as headaches, high blood pressure, heart problems, diabetes, skin conditions, asthma, arthritis, depression, and anxiety.

·        The lifetime prevalence of an emotional disorder is more than 50%, often due to chronic, untreated stress reactions

One more important reason for doing meditation in Buddhism is development of wisdom. Unless we meditate to calm ourselves, we will not have wisdom to understand the truth which Buddha taught. Why is it ?

Human mind can be compared with a lake. On a windy, stormy day its surface is full of waves. If we stand at the edge of the lake and look down, we will not be able to see anything because of the turbulence of waves.

When the wind and the storm cease, the lake surface becomes calm, tranquil, undisturbed of waves, we can clearly see the pebble, the leaf, the frog at the bottom of the lake. These things were always there but we could not see them because of the turbulent waves. Similarly if we allow ourselves to calm down by doing meditation, the turbulent waves of thought will subside and gradually disappear.  We can clearly see and understand things, which we did not understand before.

Buddha also compared human mind to a monkey. It jumps around all the time. Unless we can tame the money mind we will be stressful, worried, restless.

According to the Laboratory of Neuro Imaging at the University of Southern California, the average person has about 48.6 thoughts per minute or 69,984 thoughts per day. At one minute one thought: “ Oh my daughter goes home late tonight “ Another minute he thought: “  Oh, Joe made me angry this morning” or. “How do I come up with enough money to buy a new car “. These thoughts are random and endless. They are the turbulent waves that rob our energy, disturb our peace, make us distracted, worry, jittery … Unless we control them by practicing meditation we will always be easily nervous, upset, worried, unhappy …

When we are so distracted, we become forgetful. We forget where we park our car, where we put the car keys. We cannot even understand what our husband or wife says to us, how could we  understand the deep truth Buddha teaches… In summary our life is a mess.

I hope I have convinced you the importance of meditation. But would you want to know the correct method to practice meditation ?

I will discuss briefly how-to-meditation in this email. In later emails I will go into detail meditation practice taught in Buddhism. It will take several sessions to cover this vast topic.

Generally there are many methods of meditation but the meditation counting the breath is the most basic and most popular. I will describe 2 methods of breathing meditation. They are easy to do and very important practice in Buddhism.

The preparation for a meditation session is as important as the meditation itself. The meditator should decide:

a/ An appropriate sitting position:  He can sit on the floor with legs crossing: ( right foot on the left thigh and left foot on the right thigh ( Full Lotus position ), or right foot on the left thigh only, left foot remains under right thigh ( Half Lotus positon ). If a person cannot sit crossed legs on the floor because of stiffness, pain, he or she can sit on a chair.

b/ Back, neck: the meditator keeps his back, neck straight

c/ Eyes: Eyes are half open, looking down 6 feet in front of the leg. Some people close their eyes during meditation. I found it conducing to sleep and sleep is not meditation because we are not aware of things during the sleep. In meditation we are fully aware of everything.

d/ Hands: Both hands rest on thigh. Left hand on top of right hand, right thumb touches left thumb

e/ Duration:  For the beginner, 5-10 minutes of daily meditation is sufficient. When he is more proficient, he can proceed to 30 minutes or 60 minutes per day. 

e/ Methods of breathing:

1-     Counting the breath ( So Tuc). The meditator will observes his breath and counts it. After one breath ( in and out ) he counts One, after the second breath in and out, he counts Two. He continues to count until 5, then counts back to One, Two … If he forgets the order of the breath, he will go back to count One, Two … Once he is able to count his breath from one to five without missing any breath for several weeks, he will proceed to count from One to Ten breath. By counting breath, the meditator is able to focus on doing one thing at a time, avoiding distraction, or having random thought. His mind becomes calmer, clearer. He is happier and has more wisdom.

2-     Following the Breath ( Tuy Thuc). After becoming proficient in the previous method, the meditator will graduate to the second method which is following the breath. In this method he does not need to count his breath, but just follows it. When the breath goes in to the nose, he is aware of it. When the breath goes to the lung, he is aware of it. When he exhales he is aware of it. After a period of 10-15 minutes he becomes calmer, happier.

Hope you all practice meditation with good results. Email me if you have any question or difficulty

Until next time

Peace and Joy to all,

Dennis A Chu

Get a copy of The Power of Now by Eckart Tolle

Advertisements
Standard

One Way to Slow Down

Extracted from

365 Life Shifts: Pivotal Moments That Changed Everything (365 Book Series) (Volume 3)

By Hue Anh Nguyen

Who would have thought that an afternoon out shopping for our Boy Scout celebration would change my life forever?

It was a very clear day outside; inside my mind, however, was anything but clear! As I stopped at a light before making a right turn, 1,000 distracting thoughts raced through my head: my business, my relationships, kids in daycare, a ringing phone, setting up the Boy Scout to sing the opening for the ceremonies…

Suddenly, I saw a car making a turn right in front of me. I stomped on the brakes and…BOOM!

The airbag popped out. My face felt like it was on fire. I heard a siren in the distance. People gathered around, helping me out of the car. I was dazed, and my car was totaled; but THANK GOD the kids were okay!!! They had been securely strapped in and didn’t move an inch. Scared but safe.

The Divine has a way of speaking to us; this time it was really loud and clear: Slow down! Like my car, my life came to an abrupt halt.

I spent months going from one therapy to another, searching for a way to relieve the pain. During this time, I had many long hours to contemplate what my life was about and to rediscover the magic to heal from within me.

Looking deeper within myself at who I was and how I wanted live my life, I was able to sort out my priorities. The crash and the subsequent healing process made me realize what I truly valued the most: When you have children, the most important job is being a parent. Money, business, and everything else can wait. It doesn’t really matter how much money you have in bank; it’s meaningless if you don’t have health, peace, and love in your life.

Your bio:

 

Hue Anh Nguyen is an intuitive healer and coach with 20 years of experience using her own unique, restorative process that corrects reverse polarity to create a life in balance. She has provided transformational healing for thousands of people by detecting and releasing negative energies. www.polarity4harmony.com

(Special promotion: Receive over 70 bonus gifts – all created by the contributing authors! After you order, go here to download them all: 365lifeshifts.com!

Every so often, we have an experience that alters the course of our lives and changes who we are forever. Sometimes these moments fill us with rapture and flood us with insight. Other times, they are blessings in disguise that don’t reveal their treasure until years later. However they show up, these moments can inspire us to live richer, deeper, and more authentically soulful lives.

In this book, over 250 beautiful souls share such life-changing moments – experiences that inspired, uplifted, shook us to our core, got us back on track (or onto a new track altogether), and led us toward our true selves. The 365 inspiring stories include:

  • discovering your purpose,
  • experiencing a spiritual awakening,
  • leaving a job/relationship/home/religion to follow your soul’s whispers,
  • bravely opening up to love,
  • receiving messages from beyond,
  • tapping into your inner strength,
  • finding the beauty and wisdom in all of life, even in the difficult moments,
  • and so much more!

While the experiences themselves vary greatly, each of these moments transformed the authors and helped them shift in a positive way. These true stories (one page each – for quick inspiration!) were written with love and infused with the intention that you’ll be able to discover the beauty in your own life shifts, too)

More books from Hue Anh Nguyen

Standard

RESPONSIBILITY by Bob Proctor

This is one of the first lesson shared with me by my mentor ( William Todd author of The Mentor in me” Get it HERE

by Bob Proctor (featured in “The Secret”)

Responsibility is a choice. I often refer to it as being the key to freedom. Your future can be everything you have ever dreamed about and then some. You have the talent and tools to experience one beautiful day after another. That is, in fact, what I believe the architect of the universe had in mind for you when you were created. If that was not so, you would have never been endowed with such awesome powers.

My good friend and mentor, Val Van De Wall wrote, “When a person takes responsibility for their life and the results they are obtaining, they will cease to blame others as the cause of their results. Since you cannot change other people, blame is inappropriate. Blaming others causes a person to remain bound in a prison of their own making. When you take responsibility, blame is eliminated and you are free to grow.”

Those who haven’t taken responsibility for their results and their life often find themselves in a mental prison, and in many ways, a mental prison is a much worse place to live than a federal prison or penitentiary. Mental torment can destroy just about everything that is necessary for a meaningful life: self image, self respect, relationships and a host of other attributes. It will even cause a person’s physical health to deteriorate.

Responsibility opens the door and permits you to walk into freedom. If you find yourself confined to such a mental state, understand there is a way out. Escape is encouraged and possible.

The master key that fits the lock is clearly marked and is within everyone’s reach. It is RESPONSIBILITY.

I think it would be a fair comment to say that the people we have the greatest respect for are those who have accepted responsibility for every aspect of their lives. These individuals rarely duck responsibility by blaming someone else.

When faced with an unfavorable situation, they are usually aware they have attracted the negative circumstance and know everything happens for a reason. When this happens, they merely learn their lesson and keep reaching out, above and beyond to the new frontier, taking responsibility for whatever happens, every step of the way.

When a person refuses to accept responsibility for their life, they reject their uniqueness and they turn all of their special powers over to other people, situations or circumstances. They are then no longer in control of their future. They will be hoping something good will happen, but because of past experiences they will very likely be expecting something they do not want to happen. When you accept responsibility for your life and for the results which you alone determine, you will develop confidence that your dreams can be realized, that your plans can be carried out. Awareness of this magnificent truth is one of the greatest, if not THE greatest thing that can happen in your life. Its Aladdin’s lamp, a magic wand, the tooth fairy all wrapped up in one.

Dr. Rollo May, a distinguished psychiatrist, once wrote, “The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice, it is conformity.”

It requires great courage to take responsibility for your life. It’s so much easier to blame someone else or something outside of you. George Bernard Shaw said, “People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, they make them.” I believe Shaw was right. In my opinion, those who win big in life take responsibility and create their own destiny.

Earlier on it was suggested that responsibility brings with it a certain amount of freedom. For some, these last few paragraphs may be life-altering. And, with the proper understanding, I guarantee it has the power to free you of unnecessary mental weight that you may have been carrying around with you all of your life. The concept to which I’m referring has been misunderstood by so many and has probably single-handedly ruined more lives than one can possibly imagine. Ignorance of this principle will most certainly cause a person to experience the destructive emotions of anger, guilt and resentment.

Here it is: there is a vast difference between being responsible “for” and being responsible “to.” It seems so simple, but I don’t want you to let its apparent simplicity fool you. I’m going to repeat it again. There is a big difference between being responsible “for” and being responsible “to.”

It’s not uncommon to hear parents blame themselves and assume responsibility for something that has happened to their child, and that child might be 40 years old!

“If only we …” Or, “I should have …” Far too often we inappropriately assume responsibility for something, when in fact our real duty to the person may have ended 20 years ago. Unfortunately for most, they carry that baggage around with them for life, never realizing they have a choice.

The correct interpretation of this is: you are responsible FOR your feelings and your results – not another person’s. You may be responsible TO another person for one thing or another, but not FOR another person. The exception, of course, is when you choose to take on the responsibility of raising children until they reach the age of maturity. In that case, you are both responsible TO and FOR them, until such time as they become responsible for themselves.

At times, it might even be appealing to contemplate having another person take on our responsibilities for us. We could even trick ourselves into believing that by doing this, we would be freer to play, have fun and do the things we wanted. Without serious thought, it might never enter our mind that exactly the opposite would happen. When you permit others to take on your responsibilities, you become dependent on them. They become the giver and you become the receiver. Your well-being is dependent upon their generosity. Hopefully, at some point, it will become very clear that this kind of behavior only leads to a life of lack, limitation, resentment and confusion on the parts of both the giver and the receiver.

I’ve never witnessed anything positive that has come from the misuse of responsibility. When you take on the responsibility for another person’s feelings, results, or actions, you destroy their self-reliance and self-respect.

You are responsible for all of the results in your life. You are responsible for your happiness. You are responsible for your health. You are responsible for your wealth. You are responsible for your emotional state. Regardless of what has happened in the past, the future lies ahead with an open slate, waiting for you to take control and create a wonderful life for yourself.

Winston Churchill, who certainly knew something about responsibility, said, “Responsibility is the price of greatness.”

Here’s a marvelous affirmation that you can verbalize every night before you go to sleep and every morning as you step out of bed.

I am responsible for my life …
for my feelings …
for my personal growth …
and for every result I get

You can listen to Audio Responsibility by Bob Proctor

Learn what Bob Proctor has to say about  Nikken

I Want to create a Life in Balance 

Standard

My Most Important Role

In a web site called Active Parenting Now, the front page reads, “the purpose of parenting is to protect and prepare children to survive and thrive in the kind of society in which we live.”

Participating in 4 session of “Positive Parenting” has helped me explore and heighten ways that I can be the best parent I can be and guide my children the best way I know how.

As a parent, I have worn different hats. Wearing a white nursing caps, an olive visor as leader to a Cub Scout troupe, a translucent covering as a healer, a hat of a coach and a wife, I have learned that the most important job of all is raising my children.

Parenting is a twenty-four hour job and never ends. We are a friend, a coach, and an adviser. And, we have many expectations for our children. Here is a list I have gathered from the parents I have trained:

Hard working

Independent

Responsible

Honest

Loving

Empathetic

Compassionate

Creative

Passionate

Respectful

Ethical

Confident

Eager

Happy

Open-minded

I grew up in a different culture and era where children were seen, but not heard. This was a circumstance that I had to cope with. For instance, when I was growing up, I saw little of my mother, only in the evenings. There was no close bonding mother-daughter relationship and her work was never-ending. However, I was able to understand and appreciate her in the last two years of her life. I learned more about her in the last two years of her life than in the twenty plus years when I was growing up. We grew very close and she became my hero.

She was the foundation and the cornerstone of the family, a woman with strength and determination. She kept our family together. Though our family structure was different, and she did not have the opportunity to raise us, as she would have liked, she found time to teach us values. She taught us to be respectful in our day-to-day interactions, have compassion for life, be grateful for what we were given, and she emphasized the importance of education. After all, the freedom to be educated was why we left our country.

It is because of my extensive education in the field of healing that I have learned that the biggest investment that we have as a parent is time that we spend with our children through play, and being available for them.

I believe styles of parenting usually are learned from our parents. Then again, it is our children who teach us how to parent. There is no manual. Bogged down with work and commitments, people are exhausted and need a break. Then children’s DVD’s. IPods, and computer extravaganzas need to be satisfied. It may become confusing, but the essential reality is that children need us to be their friend.

They need someone to talk to, advice and guidance to find better choices. They want a play friend, someone to watch their baseball games, and clap at their Tae Kwon Do tournaments. They crave for parents to view their accomplishments anticipating faces that exude pride.

Being a parent is like creating a garden. A parent provides necessities such as providing sustenance, tendering care, and suggesting guidance like a gardener turns the soil, adds the fertilizes, and trims the weeds. Like the bleeding heart flower, pruning is critical when it comes to shape the beauty of a child.

I am proud of my children, but at times I feel helpless and wonder how my parenting can improve. Realizing that I do not have to be perfect, I was able to accept circumstances. Tomorrow is a new day for new ideas. And, I can make changes in my daily life to find the time to invest in my children. For every child is like a precious Rock waiting to be polish into a diamond.

There was a father who worked seven days a week and every week, he gave his child ten peso.

One day the child asked his father “how many peso do you get an hour?”

“I get ten pesos an hour,” the father said.

“If I pay you eighty Peso will you stay home and play with me?” the child asked.

Not only will I never forget this story, but also, it reminds me of my mother. As a child I would have given her everything I had to keep her home. As a mother, I understood why she was unable to. There are many stories to be told and this is one I will never forget.

It is important to be grateful for each day. I realize, unlike my mother, I am lucky to have the choice of staying home and taking care of my children in the way I choose. I can be their role model. Not everyone is able have this type of leisure. However, like my mother, everyone has the ability to do the best they can, and focus on what they are able to do in order to heighten their children’s wellbeing.

By Hue Anh Nguyen (Relationship Coach and Intuitive Healer) http://www.polarity4harmony.com

Standard

What is Chronic Reverse Polarity

 

Do you feel used up? Drained? Does your business suffer from your inability to handle stress? Maybe you have tried to organize your life and ambitions maybe you have sought to coach to improve business, but nothing seems to work. When nothing helps, it’s easy to give in and think you just weren’t cut out to be an entrepreneur or that you’re stuck in an endless rut. If this describes you, you could be experiencing symptoms from reverse polarity—a condition from which the majority of those who undergo regular stress suffer.

The human body is a self-generating electric system—from the function of our nerves to the beating of our hearts. Electricity produces a magnetic field, even in the human body. The natural polarity of our body can be reversed by stressors, just like a magnetic field in the Earth. When the polarity of your body reverses, problems such as fatigue, depression, anxiety, fibromyalgia, autoimmune diseases, cancer, ADHD, and many other conditions can impact your body.

As if suffering from depression, anxiety, and fatigue wasn’t problematic enough, this can impact more than just your health. When your polarity is reversed and you are putting out negative energy, you will attract that energy right back. The law of attraction states that what you put out into the world you get back in kind. From a personal and business standpoint, this is definitely a problem.

To help understand this, we’ll use the example of an entrepreneur with reverse polarity. When he wakes up in the morning, he feels tired—he already has a poor start to a potentially successful day. As he goes through his day, trying to find new clients and market, he carries anxiety and fear in him. He thinks he is not good enough—that no one is listening to him and he will fail. With this type of energy in his heart, he ensures he will never succeed. It not only impacts his psychological outlook on life, impacting his decision-making, but he also suffers physically from his anxiety. We’ve all been there after a long day of unsuccessful work. Our body hurts, we’re tired, sometimes we just want to cry. These are all physical symptoms and dangerous ones that can lead to severe problems later in life.

Here at Polarity4Harmony, Hue Anh Nguyen works with people to help reverse their polarity back to attract the positive. Coupled with her understanding of the body from her time as a Registered Nurse, Hue Nguyen uses intuitive healing to release trapped emotions. When stagnate negativity is released, your body can begin to heal itself physically and emotionally.

Hue works remotely with hundreds of people to help them move through their blocked emotions. She has been very successful with helping entrepreneurs move through their stagnation and instantly go on to turn their luck around. From the publisher she worked with remotely who had been getting very little business and after a session immediately received phone calls, to the healer she helped at a seminar who could not sell her trade that turned around and made five sales the very next day after a session, to the real estate agent who could not get his business off the ground who the very next week had three clients call interested in buying homes. Hue helps people succeed.

Do not let your stress dictate your success and more importantly, your health. Work with a Master Healer to replenish your body and release your negativity—it’s never too late to thrive.

http://www.polarity4harmony.com

Standard